I have found myself in an unusual predicament. Well unusual for me. I am not allowed to drive. My husband is home from his trip and I am so very glad. He arrived dinner time Thursday night, and within an hour he had me in bed and he brought implements! Yeah, I am a lucky girl! After the previous post, which mentioned unmentionables, I considered being worried but truly was not. Unless there is a big deal issue, he’ll punish me or not, I’ll cry or not, and we’ll move on. Another day another spanking. I know that sounds unimpressive, but somehow that’s where it’s come to. Spanking used to be such a big deal and I would internally be a mess inside… would he /wouldn’t he, and how bad would it be…and all kinds of internal pretzel twisting. I have learned he can’t and won’t kill me with a paddle, and I simply put myself in his hands with much less angst. Now if I had done something horrid, I guess I would feel very differently…not about death by hairbrush, but yeah, I’d be a mess. But saying the word…I did…does not qualify.
Anyway, he did not punish me. I am not sure why. I did not ask and do not need to know. I think he was just too happy to see me. I was very happy to see him too. It had been a full week. Then, it happened. You know when there is something you have not needed to mention because it is a small temporary problem and you can fix it yourself, any day, no sweat, and then, somehow you just don’t? And then, out of nowhere it is clear that the issue has come up unexpectedly in conversation, and you must tell on yourself, even though you happen to already be alone with him in the bedroom and implements are out, because if not it will be clear deception. I won’t go down that road, not ever. So, I confessed.
I am a very busy woman and used that as a sort of excuse, not in a haughty way, but it’s a fact…I am. But he immediately said “I am sure you could take an hour or two out of your computer time.” I dropped that line of reasoning pronto! Take two, “I am really sorry. I didn’t mean to let it go. I meant to take care of it, forgot, and it didn’t seem like such a big deal, and no, they would not arrest me…would they?” He assured me under certain circumstances I am certain to be carried off, and require bail for my release to my husband. My car will be impounded and the headlines will read, “Senior Executive Arrested for Driving with Expired Driver’s License!!!!” I don’t know, police men are pretty nice to me ‘cause I am nice to them, but my husband is unimpressed with my reasoning.
Somehow, through all of this, there was no punishment. He certainly did spank me, and quite hard by the way, but it was not a P. And even him saying it is a P makes a lot of difference, somehow. He did tell me emphatically that this had better be the end of my “nonsense”, that his “soft heart has reached it’s bounds”. That works, because I really did not mean to make him upset. That is the only part I am upset about in truth, his upset does not make me happy with myself.
A piece of his concern, aside from the vision of my arrest and the headlines, is that I am not upset. (Men, I don’t need to hear a chorus. I suspect that you will all be appalled too and you NEVER let such things happen to you. Yes, somehow this feels like it happened to me. Women do, I think. Or maybe just most of the women I am friends with? I am not quite sure why, but somehow it might be a girl thing. One friend said… “I can’t believe it…not that I have not done the same thing!” Another said in horror, “Sara! I have NEVER let my license run out. I only don’t pay our bills on time!” (Over and over, I might mention 
) Uh huh. The third won’t even bother scolding because she’s let so many things go…well we won’t go there. And these are bright capable woman. Two run homes and one runs classrooms and I run a company. We do what we do well, too, I assure you. But we do have our Lucy moments, all of us.
Ok, so here’s the story. I did renew my license which in my state we do through the mail. I just did not follow up on it and get my new picture taken which is required within some amount of time. Then the current literal license expired, ok, yes, 5 months ago, but in my mind somewhere in the universe the powers that be will see me as legal, because I sent my check and signature. It is just a picture that is missed, a document that proves that I did what I was supposed to, which yes I don’t have, but I did the most important part and I am legal…I think…sort of. Grant said he is very disappointed, which I hate.
He simply cannot believe that I do not understand the implications and illegality and that I think the way I do, and that I have been driving with an expired license. He says sometimes I boggle his mind. I’m thinking…maybe expired…missing the correct card for a renewed license? I don’t really know.
I decided I had better find out what would happen when I actually appeared at the license bureau, so I researched The DVM online:
Can I Renew and Expired License?
Any previously issued license that is already expired or within six months of the expiration date can be renewed unless it is:
- A Commercial Driver’s License or
- Not currently valid (suspended, revoked, disqualified, cancelled)
Phew! So I am thinking, if this was on the website of COMMONLY asked questions, lots of people must need to know what to do after their license expires…right? Not that Grant has ever been even slightly impressed with “But Honey, everybody does it!” I am just sayin’… I might not be the only person in the universe.
Anyway, I am sure most of you are now wondering how this man manages not to beat me to death and you feel very sorry for his burden. I am not allowed to drive until I have a totally legal license, both in cyberspace and in my wallet, which will mean on Tuesday afternoon after an important meeting at work in which I am going to go be the big boss and require things and be firm and a bit disapproving, I will need him to drive me to go get it. In the meantime my dear, supportive, more wonderful than I could deserve husband is driving me everywhere I need to go. Did I mention I am the luckiest woman in the world?
* I wasn’t going to write this post at all but KayLynn insisted it needed to be told, and the great title was her idea. I want to give all credit to her for the idea and title, and if I somehow get in trouble over this post, I will insist on giving her that too.
Dear Sara,
The same thing happened with Lynda, only she did get a P out of the deal–different circumstances and different time in our relationship (I had reminded her several times before the deadline not to let it lapse). I remember when this was not a big deal to fix, but since 9/11, it is now a much bigger pain, with much worse consequences.
I also drove her around. I tried very hard to be gracious about it. I’ll just say I figure Grant will do a better job at being gracious than I was.
I’m also happy for you that he was easy on the terminology subject.
Sara,
My husband takes care of 1)Lawn Care and 2) Vehicle Maintenance. He claimed those jobs early on and I never have questioned it. Unfortunately for me, my mind delegates far too many things to Vehicle Maintenance and that usually includes license renewals, registrations (my car) and tune ups. Putting gasoline in my car was a very first dd issue that I can’t remember if I posted about. Henry must always be on top of me for these issues, they are never in the forefront of my mind. It is a feminine trait I am guessing, as many woman that I know do the very same thing. The other problem is that, when your renewal first became an issue, it was not a *do now * item and it probably never got bumped up in your mind as the deadline approached. I am not condoning the facts, I’m just trying to help you sort out why/how it happened.
I will take a spanking any day, in exchange for my husband not being disappointed in me.
It was very generous of you to share your issue with us. Confessions feel a lot better than guilt, so for that part I’m sure you’re much relieved. My husbands favorite line is “I can help you with that” and I’m sure that Grant can help you with yours.
By the way, best of luck with your meeting. And yes, you are lucky for sure.
Elysia
I will be absolutely no help here,,,I drove for a full year on an expired license. The only reason I renewed it was to avoid having to retake the road test,,,sigh
It is a great thing to have someone who cares about the little things that can blossom into big things unexpectedly
Good luck with your meeting, hope it goes as well as it can. I’m not to sure what it is with the DMV thing’s. I think it is because it give’s us time, so we don’t jump on it right away. I do have to say though that I somehow forgot to renew my registration just a few month’s back…and ofcourse the only time i get pulled over was then! Yikes!. Thankfully the officer was nice & did’nt impound my car as he said he could, but gave me a ticket. I fixed it as quick as i could that day via internet, but M already new, Yike’s again lol. There is something about driving,, can’t do over the limit, cannot get ticket’s,and must keep track of the licence, registration. I think it is about my safety with M concening these thing’s. Although M heard me out & was understanding, I still got the P. Certainly not one that would be forgotten, but then again, I have not forgot any of those thing’s since…so I guess he made his point, lovingly & caring but ouch…darn DMV LOL. Have a great rest of your week.
Oh I’m glad you posted this, I just have to go and see if my licence is OK, you know it’s something I’ve not thought of. Lets hope it’s OK and if not do I confess to P or not?
I love the title.
Love,
Ronnie
xx
Well thanks so much for the C squared! (credit and curse) I am underwhelmed with the innocent ‘she said it first’ finger pointing and overwhelmed that someone listens to me these daze! just sayin! So I asked D’artagnan if he’d do the same and the thought of being trapped with me in a car for long periods of time was too much to consider. You’re company must be more pleasant. He went off into a rant of having to take out time from his day to accommodate my schedule would not happen. …said he’d leave me to the hands of the powers that be! All I kept thinking was “you’d not save me from myself?!!” Why on earth would I be in a Dd relationship unless it were for (among other things of course… being a professed spanko) saving me from myself!! But I didn’t remind him that he was on me like a shadow when my license was about to expire for picture renewal a few years back – he just likes to dream that I’m not his burden!!
Please let us know when you have your license renewed. I loved this and am truly enjoying your blog. I desire a DD relationship but my husband is far from being on board. I find your posts helpful and look forward to hearing the outcome of your day (Tues.)
Blessings,
Karen
Mick, I think how Grant handled this was very specific to our lives right now. He was actually so gracious about driving me that it made quite an impression on me.
Elysia, we have the same issue with gas in the car. It is not supposed to go below half a tank. I guess it’s a goal to reach for? And yes, procrastination is not my friend, but a regular companion.
CD, you’re makin’ me look good girlfriend!
Lisa…now you have me wondering about my registration…when was that anyway?
Ronnie, real girls don’t often think about such mundane things! We have more important concerns, don’t you think?
KayLynn, please remind D that it is his great privilege to have you as “his burden”!
Hi Karen, well Grant took me today and within 15 minutes I was legal again, and he was much relieved. I hope you will find a way to help your husband to better understand your needs in time. Good Luck!