Five years ago Bonnie of Our Bottom Smarts began “Love our Lurkers Day”. The day has been one that not only brings our lurkers out from behind their screens, but also unites this blogging community in a fun and productive way. Thanks to Bonnie for the idea and the effort to make all of this happen!
Now, you lurkers…I know you are there! I see my stats, I know you read here, but most of you rarely comment. And that’s OK. I was a lurker myself for several years. I felt like I had nothing worth saying, insecure about being welcomed. Now, as a blogger, I know how silly that was.
I love getting comments, and I most especially LOVE hearing from brand new commenters! Would you do it just this once, for me? Please, just say “hi” if that’s all you have to say! You can even make up a name or remain anonymous.
Come on readers…make my day! 
Just say….
HI SARA!!! I am….over here, lurking. hehe
I have commented before, when the mood takes me. But I love your stories of your daily life. It’s real in a way you just dont get in movies
Hi Sara,
Happy Lurker Day yourself!
I have been ‘lurking’ for about six months : ) And I’m glad to have an opportunity to say, reading your blog has been fantastic – in so many ways!
And loved the pics of Hawaii… that was fun.
Take care, and keep up the great work, Lee
I lurk daily, hoping for new posts. I don’t feel like I have anything to add, mostly because my husband is not interested in Dd. So I can’t comment, “Oh I know where you are coming from, or I know exactly what you mean.” I feel like a voyeur. So just this once, on lurker day, I will say, I am an avid fan of your blog. I think you are an amazing writer and I would probably read your blog even if it was about something mundane.
Hello, again let me say how much I love your blog and how much it has made me feel “normal”. I turned from a lurker to a blogger about a week ago for two reasons. One is I saw how everyone in the community interacts with each other and no one is judgemental, even if their views differ they are respectful of each other. And two, I also hope in time to help someone else feel they too are “normal” and there are people out in this great big world just like them.
So just one more time let me say THANK YOU SOOOOO MUCH SARA!!!!!!!! Your choice to share your feelings with the world has helped my life and my marriage.
Hi Lea, thanks for stopping by!
Hi Joanna, always glad to hear from you!
Hello Lee, and thank you so very much for delurking!!!
Sheri, that was such a nice compliment! Thank you!
Awww, shucks Rebekah! (blush)
Sara, I’m no stranger but Happy LOL Day!
Sara, I may be here for the first time. Thought I’d say hi anyway in the spirit of friendliness. I’ve enjoyed reading the comments others have left. Must read more of your blog.
I love to read your blog Sara
Good to be here in this community. LOL
Not a lurker, but I thought I’d say hi anyway!!
Hey, Sara! Fantastic blog here! But thought I’d make my presence known. Happy LOL day!
Wow, now you see why I don’t often comment. The above made no sense! (I hope you know what I meant.)
I may have commented once before here, but I just wanted to de-lurk anyway. I love your writing, and I don’t want to sound like I’m coveting my neighbor-blogger’s husband, but I’d love to have what you and Grant have. Of course it is unique to the two of you.
If I have any requests, it’s that I’d like to hear more dialog and more of the reasons for things that go on.
Hey Sara, I’ve read your blog from the beginning. Always a fan.
Mick
Hi Sara.
Guess, technically, I am no longer a lurker because I have commented more often on your blog this year. But I guess that’s ok because, technically, it is no longer LOL Day. (wink)
Over the year, I have enjoyed our exchanges and your kind words. This is the blog I seem to feel closest to, “watching” how you guys have grown over the years. You are a very moving writer. Here’s to many more years of Finding Sara!
R.
I’m a year long lurker. I am fascinated by DD , but this is the only blog of any kind that I read regularly. There is so much thoughtful introspection in almost every post.
Hi Sara, Happy LOL Day. First time here and I like your blog.
Hi Sara, I’ve been lurking for the past few months but I’ve commented once or twice before.
You are an amazing writer and I simply love to read your blog. You write with feelings, sincerity, awareness, deep insight and intelligence. What you have shared is inspiring and touching. Though I don’t have a partner, I find that I still gain a lot from what you’ve shared. Thank you for your courage, honesty and effort in sharing so much of yourself!
Wishing you and Grant a wonderful life together!
M.
Happy LOL Sara.
You were one of the reasons I started blogging and like you I lurked for months. Hopefully today will convince others to join us and start blogging as well!
Delurking just to say hi and that I enjoy your blog.
Snaping fingers to go back to lurking mode.
Not a lurker of course but still wanted to stop by and say hello Sara.
Happy LOL Day.
Love,
Ronnie
xx
Hi, funny that it’s love my lurkers day as I just posted for the first time anywhere on a dd site with a long post and question on your blog entry about whether spanking helps depression and anxiety. I realized after that this blog entry is a little on the old side and may not get noticed and therefore my question may not get answered. So, I thought I would reference the post here and hope it would be seen.
http://findingsara.wordpress.com/2010/03/28/can-spanking-help-depression-or-anxiety/#comment-4510
Happy LOL V Sara! Thanks for your wisdom.
Ally, Kelly, Jess and Mick, thanks so much for stopping by, and for your regular support and comments!
Karl, a 1st time visit..how exciting for me!
Pink, you did FINE!!
Thank you A non. I will keep your request in mind when I write.
R, not a lurker anymore, and I am so glad!
Allen, I so appreciate you saying hi and delurking!
Welcome Michael!
Anon, thanks for your words and for reading here.
Janet, Ronnie and B-man…grabbing coffee, and I’ll be over to your places to say hello too. Thanks for your many comments!
Newbie, welcome, and thanks for saying hi. I read all comments and yes, I sure will answer yours. Look for it in coming days.
Sara- I lurk here quite a bit, I need to comment more often.
Happy LOL day.
Katia
I’ve been a lurker here and at one other blog for a long time. My wife and I have been in a DD relationship for about 30 years and we knew it worked for us but, until we found your blog, my wife was concerned about being the only normal person/wife in the US who was being spanked. It was your obvious normalcy and decency that has finally led her to understand that she is not alone in the world.
Hi sara, I am a lurker and I love reading here and sharing your blog with my husband. We are sort of on this path, but there are bumps in the road and obstacles too. Thanks for sharing!
Meg
Hi Sara,
I’ve been happily bouncing around your blog for months and I think it’s awesome! I’ve recently been married and carefully touched on this lifestyle and sent him some of the fantastic information and thoughts from you and Grant and all the others here…well, I thought I would never find someone who was willing to take charge and keep a careful, loving, and firm hold on our marriage. And enjoy humoring my quirkiness to be spanked on a regular basis! Lucky me! I found him!! And thank you for sparking the fire…
From one of your biggest, most grateful fans,
Sharon
Hi Sara,
I’ve commented here a few times, but love what you write. I find your personal journey to help with illuminating mine. You and Grant have a wonderful union of trust and humor–always inspirational! happy LOL day!
Katia, thanks for stopping by!
Delurked, thank you for letting me know. I am always touched to know that our story has helped someone else. l and I know for a fact that you and your wife are not alone.
Meg, with Dd the phrase “no pain no gain” comes to mind as very appropriate. There are always bumps. We have them too. I hope you are able to get past yours quickly. I appreciate the comment!
Sharon, Congrats on your marriage and good for you…you found a good guy! I am so glad you decided to delurk!
Hi lisa, and thank you for your comments. I always appreciate hearing a kind word!
My husband and I have had a dd marriage for 10 years now. We both enjoy your blog very much!
Kaye
Hi Sara
Happy LOL day! I’m hardly a lurker, and I always enjoy my visits here.
Hugs,
Hermione
Sara,
So often after reading your words I have found that your words resonate in my soul and touch my heart. Thank you so very much for being willing to share and allow yourself the vulnerability it takes to write in this blog. We are blessed because of it. I have commented once or twice before, but wanted to make sure to say hello on this special day. I hope to one day find my own voice in this realm. For now, I will continue peeking into this world of blogs and be enriched by your lives. My thanks to you, Grant, and everyone.
~shy~
Hi Sara! I’ve been lurking here over the last few months and want you to know how much I love your blog! I always look forward to new posts from you, and appreciate your honesty and the beautiful way you express yourself!
Not a lurker but an appreciative reader nevertheless.
Happy LOL day!
Hi, Sara. Happy LOL Day! Your blog is always a pleasure to read; thank you once again for sharing your journey with us.
Hi Sara,
I am a grateful and admiring lurker. Following your exploits I have been entertained and enlightened. In the last year and a half my husband and I have been making a lot of changes not into Dd yet but picking up a lot of the pieces. It is an interesting journey and we are both deliriously happy. After 40 years of marriage I think that is quite a feat. You have given me the courage to make many of these changes… in myself.
Thank-you
Hi, Sara,
I’ve been following your blog for over 2 years. At first, it was a matter of a life-long curiosity, and because I found that much of what you write resonates with me . . . then, I wanted to know more . . .
I had a good marriage, but it was kind of flat, and I KNEW I frustrated him, but he never said so. And so many times, I just felt invisible. He’d get quiet, and I’d retreat, and nothing would get resolved. Well, fast forward 2 years, and we’re spanking for FUN, stress-relief, rebooting when necessary, emptying my head so I can sleep, occasional little p’s (but only when he can tell that I NEED them), we’re managing my peri-menopausal insanity, and just getting closer and closer every single day. It’s incredible, what’s happened . . . we’re like newlyweds again, but even more open and honest with each other about feelings, perceptions, responses than we’ve ever been . . . and we’re more in love than we ever imagined we could be. After almost 20 years of marriage, I finally feel like he SEES me and he KNOWS me, and I finally KNOW that he loves me unconditionally, and it’s just indescribably beautiful. Thank you for writing so honestly . . . it’s given me the courage to speak and to know and to be.
BTW, Sara,
Your blog is the first I’ve ever, ever commented on—quite terrifying for me, actually. I’ve never even put into WRITING what this thing is that we do . . . but I wanted you to know that you have touched my life. Thank you.
Hi Sara,
Look at all the wide-eyed lurkers you’ve collected. Bravo, and happy LOL Day!
Hugs,
Bonnie
Hermione, Vanessa and Poppy, I am always happy to hear from you, Thank you for your support!
Shy, I have appreciated your comments and questions. I do hope you will take the plunge and consider writing, If you ever want help with that, email me!
Annie, thank you SO much for delurking! I hope you’ll come back sometime!
Wow Heather, 40 yrs and going strong? I am impressed and thanks for saying hi!
Erin, I don’t know if you can know how much your comment touched me, or how appreciative I feel that you wrote it in spite of your trepidation! People like you keep me writing, even when I feel some trepidation…and we all do, you know? Thank you!
Bonnie, the comments have blown me away, and I am so grateful to every single reader. I am also grateful for all your encouragement. You got me started blogging. Thank you!
Hello Sara;
I just wanted to say that I love your column and your insight.
Oh Hello, Happy LOL day.
Prefectdt
Happy LOL day
Howdy Sara!
Hi Sara;
Thank you for being my 1st de-lurk comment. I’ve been peeking in with you for a year now. Great job!
patty
Hi Sara,
I read your blog often and can relate to some of your stories, except going to Hawaii, we havn’t been there in a awhile and want to go back only without the kids this time .
Hi Sara,
Love your blog
Happy LOL Day!
Tammy
Hi Sara,
Just wanted to say hello, and yes I’ve been a lurker for about a year now. Must say, I love the way you write with such honesty. Would love to hear from both you and Grant on my situation, and will probably write you soon if this reaches you. Must admit, having grown up in a time when computers weren’t taught in classes, I am not really up to speed on the use of one.
Happy LOL Day!!!
Mary
❥ So love your blog!! Thanks for letting me into your world!!
Sara,
You have helped me and JJ so much along the way. We’re still figuring it all out, and we’ll get there some day. Thanks for your honesty and your wisdom that you share.
Happy LOL Day!
Kady
Happy LOL Day!
sara,
I appreciate the way you share your life in such an open way.
Joan, Hortic, Cookie, Val and AngelBrat…thanks for saying “Hi”!
Welcome Patty and Tammy!
Kaki, I want to go back to Hawaii too, right now!..we had frost this morning!
Mary, thank you for delurking. We would be very happy to answer any question you have!
Anon, Thanks!
Kady, I enjoy your comments and your blog, Thanks for stopping by!
Jean I appreciate your steady readership!
So I guess I should get up the courage to delurk, because I want to thank you for your blog, and your insightfulness, which has helped me so much. My husband has for a long time spanked me for big things, and I really thought I was the only one. Then in researching I found your blog and the DD community. It gave me insight to realize submission had it’s benefits, and I should stop running from it, that it could actually help me. So in answer to my husband’s extreme stress over my ADD and getting ready to be a mom, I decided to give that to him, at least to try it out for a couple months with a full DD contract. Your blog and a few others has helped me learn this difficult mindset, even now when I’m in trouble yet again. Though my husband doesn’t even give what most of you get as a warmup most of the time, it’s enough that I don’t want it! But more than that, I want to be the wife he deserves, and a good mom. So thank you for helping with that by sharing your journey, I am learning, be it ever so slowly.
I think my first comment was last year LOL day, and only a few since. I so appreciate every post, and your honesty in sharing your feelings. you’ve challenged many of my assumptions of what a relationship should be like. Thanks!
Erin, glad you were brave enough to post, your story is very inspiring.
Jane
Sara, I first posted on your blog almost a year ago, after reading half of you entire blog (working backwards), I never finished reading it all, but I didn’t need to because I knew that it was what our marriage needed, so we started DD and we’ve never looked back. Thanks for answering all of my (long winded) questions and thanks so much for sharing your life with your husband and family, so that I could understand DD and take what we need to find our own happiness! (not that it’s easy, lol!)
Happy LOL!
I tried to make this shorter, but everything needed to be said!
Hi Sara and new friends! Though married 17 rocky years we are new to DD/TiH . I’ve been lurking here for about two months. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and insights. We are very much a work in progress and on a journey.
Frazzledmom in WA
Hi Sara
This is our first comment on your sight but we have followed your blog for the last 16 months but have read all the entries since the beginning, and have really enjoyed them.
I feel that I can relate to a lot of what you write and really like the way you write. Like others have said you are brave to write about your life but it helps me to understand some of the feelings I have.
Thanks for writing and we continue to look forward to reading your blog for many years to come.
Ellie
Dear Lurkers,
Thank you all for your wonderful thoughtful comments and compliment to Sara.
She is indeed a special person. I am lucky to have her and I can well understand your admiration for her insights, commentary, and advice. If not for her courage, we might not have the relationship we enjoy, but might have been like lost sailors on a turbulent ocean in the dark–with nothing to guide us. Sara has been a guiding star in that ocean.
Her work has allowed us the advantage of interacting with so many great and courageous people who comment on her blog–including you.
Those people have added clarity to the discourse and their questions and inquiries have challenged Sara to delve deeply and explore many facets of our relationship and how we go about making it work for us. I too have been challenged many times with questions that force me to examine my own part in this relationship that does so much for us.
Thanks so much,
Grant
Hi Sara,
I am not a lurker but have not been able to comment for sometime now. 1st was back surgery, then well I was on a punishment for sometime. Ofcourse had a big spanking but then he did the unthinkable….he said I could not read your site for 2 week’s, but could not comment till now. Uggh! Knew he was going to take away something, but never did I think it would be this, LOL. Finally I told him it was lurker’s day & I missed so much commenting, feeling in touch with you & everyone on hear. So I am back..Yippy! He loves your post as well but knew it would be something to really test my listening skill’s. Yes they were lacking. I have loved all your post’s, picture’s & vacations. I have told you many time’s it was your site that helped me so much to understand me. I relate so much to you & have learned many thing’s. Thank you for being you! Lisa
Sorry I am late for LOL day; got here as soon as I could, time constraints…. love your writing, well done and thanks! xxxxxxx Daisy xxxxxxxxx
kittykat, I am so glad you now know you are not alone, and that reading here has helped you. I do want to mention that while spanking can help you to focus a bit more, it is no real remedy for ADD. Medications do wonders though! Good luck with your new baby!
Hi Jane, and thanks for coming back!
Elysia, we both know that ‘long winded’ and ‘Elysia’ kinda go together
, but you have so many good things to say that it is worth the read! Thanks for your support!
Frazzledmom, every one of us is a work in progress! I hope you will be back soon, and good luck with your journey!
Thank you for delurking and telling me Ellie! My best to you both!
Grant, honey, you are my foundation, the man who has my back and holds me together. I love you!
Awww Lisa, I was wondering where you have been! He used ME as a punishment? Tsk..I think it’s against the rules to use us girls against one another! Glad you are back!
Daisy, I am so glad you stopped by anyway!
This one’s for Grant:
I hope you don’t mind that I had a good chuckle reading the line “Her work has allowed us the advantage of interacting with so many great and courageous people who comment on her blog–including you.
I remember Sara once writing about how you did not approve of her making internet connections early on in your journey. (On 42nd Street, November 22, 2008, 3rd paragraph).
I guess you too/two have come a very long way from where it all began! May you both share your travels with all of us for many years to come.
R.
So totally a lurker. I adore your blog and check for new posts everyday. Lots of love, Kerryanneo
I am a previous lurker and happy reader. Sorry to be so late here. Life’s been keeping me from reading. It is so wonderful to see what a difference you make in our lives. I can honestly report that you’ve helped D and I tremendously with your candor. My best to you and Grant for years to come! KayLynn (and D).
Dear A Lurker,
Yes, we have come a long way–together.
When I realized how many lives Sara has
Touched and helped with her writing, well
It was an easy choice to make sure she
Could develop it without too many objections
From me.
Grant
Thank you, Grant.
~Erin
I have only been lurking for the past few days. I am fascinated by your lifestyle. I just erased a long diatribe so as not to provide to much information too soon. Love your writing!
Sara,
I’m so glad for you that Grant is so willing to reassure you so well. I can tell he really cares for you and has your best interests at heart, (even if sometimes you in the beginning disagree with him), and I know you can too. I think you would agree that sometimes we have to obey first and understanding comes later, at least that’s what I’ve been told. Praying for the two of you as you continue to grow and share what you learn with lucky us. Thank you so much for sharing your lives with us. We are learning so much from you.
Oops, I posted on the wrong blog entry! Sorry! Well I guess you’ll figure it out.
Sara,
I would have been happy to jump in and say hello on LOL day but I hadn’t found your blog until just a few days ago.
I just wanted to say how much I appreciate both yours and Grants openess and honesty about your relationship.
I know this sounds almost addicted but I found this blog a few days ago and have basically read from your first post through to your last. I do that when I find someone that writes in a way I can relate to as well as respect. You are very good at puting your feelings into words thus opening that world for those of us that are still trying to come to terms with the whole lifestyle, need versus want, Domination/submission and so on.
I just wanted to pop my head out and say hello and thank you.
Lynn