The HOH Speaks – Spanking # 2

I appreciate all your comments and, of course, your kindness to Sara and me.

Also, as we all know, there are two sides to every story. Each of us has our own world view through which we see each other’s motivations, or, through which we do not see those motivations.

In some cases, there are 5 sides to every story.

Hold on, I think I’ve got this.

Just a couple of notes:

Actually, a faucet is just a faucet in this case. The kitchen faucet was broken…I waited for a design choice. I waited long enough to buy the faucet myself–after Sara agreed for me to buy it. She did not like the design I bought–no problem–you buy one, ok? Yes.

Although a faucet is just a faucet in this case, a Yes was not a Yes.

Oh, consequences, such untidy, inconvenient little things. They appear out of nowhere and only God knows how they got here, right in the middle of my busy life…


for ladies alarmed at the “before work” activities, don’t be alarmed.

1) If you read my last comment, you will see how I regard change. No matter what we do, change will come whether we like it or not. However, sometimes change needs to be brought down upon (that includes me of course) for us to see the necessity of change.

In this case CHANGE needed capital letters. It was necessary for the health of our relationship, for the health of my children and for the health of the universe in general. Don’t thank me, it’s my job.

2) If you squirm enough and yell enough and carry on enough, that paddle can miss the point, as one might say, and yes, cause a bruise. This is not an excuse, because in my world, bruising is never acceptable, physically or emotionally; and although I am writing this comment with a bit of humor, it is serious business after all.

Please do not think I am laughing–I just want what I say to be palatable.

3) Please do not get the wrong impression as far as Sara’s and my business are concerned. We have partnered on dozens of business deals for many years. No debate necessary.

4) Border Control Agency:

“We regret to inform you that borders will be strongly protected
to ensure the safety and welfare of our citizens. Those violating
protocol will be charged with a misdemeanor and will appear
before a judge who also will be held accountable for his actions”

Have a nice day,


21 thoughts on “The HOH Speaks – Spanking # 2

  1. Grant, It’s so nice to see you post here again! We love Sara, & it’s nice to see when you post too.
    Thanks for the clarifications from a HoHs view that include both a humorous and serious perspective :)

  2. Goddamit Grant, I think Peter has been reading the last few posts because he has been having a chuckle at my expense. Our eldest son has been preparing an Oscar Wilde monologue (own choice) for a local Drama Festival ….this is something I leave totally up to Peter. I’m music. He’s drama. Job done. Roles defined. Very neat and tidy, or so it would seem. I was half listening last night when he was in full swing and I tellya when I heard these words spring from a 15 year old it made me think, holy moley we have an all thinking, all doing, allknowing HOH in the making…..

    ‘There was your error. The error all women commit. Why can’t you women love us, faults and all ? Why do you place us on monstrous pedestals ? We have all feet of clay, women as well as men; but when we men love women, we love them knowing their weaknesses, their follies, their imperfections, love them all the more, it may be, for that reason.It is not the perfect, but the imperfect, who have need of love. it is when we are wounded by our own hands, or by the hands of others, that love should come to cure us—-else what use is love at all ?’ (An Ideal Husband : Oscar Wilde)

    Alright, alright, alright….but I still think a spanking before work is waaaay too much of a step too far. I’ve yet to find a non-smear mascara that does its job.

    And trust me on this…. faucet’s come in all manner of detail. Although Peter would beg to differ on this one.And would have done what you did.



  3. It’s really good to get Grant’s perspective although I think I’ll need a bottle of wine or a dictionary to untangle the real meaning behind it! LOL!

    Thanks both, and hugs


  4. I think the timing could have been better. It may have been deserved but after all the time it takes to get ready and then have to do it all over again. So not fair.

  5. Thanks, MrBB! A bit of humor is always good, especially when things go bad!

    Sarah, Oscar Wilde, no less. And of course we HOH’s want to be the Ideal Husband. But then, you ladies come and mess it all up! (humor–see above)

    Ami–send the vodka to Sara, dictionary to me. She can drink while I figure out the meaning of all this. TY

    Sunnygirl–your opinion is well-recieved. It was really a shame that I had to tie my tie all over again. I just can’t take this anymore! Just kidding. I know it is difficult to get ready in the morning…best get ready the night before~! On a serious note–I understand your point.

  6. Oh those smug HOHs. My husband could have written this, so I’m smiling. On the other hand, my husband could have written this so I’m not!

    I think you’re right. There are probably five sides to this story, and a lot more going on under the surface.

  7. It just sounds so very “Grantish.” I think that’s a new word. ;)

    Hi Grant.

    Blasted HoH border patrols.

    Hey Sara…while you were away this last while there was a saying that became quite common around blogland. In these moments (like right now when your husband has written a whole post) you should have a tall “glass of submission.” Simply fill it up with your beverage of choice. Sip till empty. Refill. Repeat. Helps a lot.

  8. Hello Grant,
    You seem like a infuriatingly consistent HoH, much like my own. I adore my husband and it is clear to see that you are much adored by your TiH wife. I did not comment on Sara’s excellent post but I was somewhat troubled by the thought of being dressed and ready for my day, only to interrupted on my way out the door and then spanked.
    I have been led to believe that there was a sort of….. implied immunity, honoured by HoHs, once the makeup, hair, heels and dress pants were donned of a morning. This departure from accepted protocol has been disconcerting. Just saying.
    Hugs to you and Sara,

  9. I suspect there was a very intentional and symbolic message being delivered in both the timing and in requiring the transition from professional-on-her-way-out-the-door to removing the “boss” trappings, winter white as they were, to full-stop refocus and engagement in the relationship dynamic. Or, maybe I am just reading too much into it. In any case, it had to be hard on both of you, even if necessary. No matter how messy it gets at times, the love you have for each other, your commitment to each other and individual integrity shows. HTYB, Golde & Tevye

  10. Hey Grant, it’s very nice to meet you.

    As I told Sara on her last post, no real advice, it just seemed as if with the rough year you both have had, that she wasn’t really in a relationship frame of mind. Reading your post, looks like you have taken the steps necessary to pull you both back into that frame of mind! ;)

    Sending lots of positive energy that you continue to grow together.


  11. Stormy, thanks for your comments. There are all kinds of sub-surface issues and feelings most times, I think, for all of us. The good news is: I am not perfect!

    Susie, good idea–that “glass of submission”. We are going to tap a keg this week. TY for giving me the idea.

    Thanks Lillie, Immunity is only for diplomats, and my experience is that if diplomacy worked, I would be out of a job.

    Golde and Tevye, I find your comment very astute and true. Sometimes it is good to remind our better halves that, yes, you can put on the armour, but then again, at some point, any point, it has to come off. Who will decide at which point? Uh…I got this…me.
    Of course, it will not happen on a regular basis, it is only for those very very special moments.

    Cat, thanks for the positive energy, God knows it is always needed.

  12. Thank you, Grant. Your post was humorous and educational. I was giggling and also listening very attentively to your remarkably good points. I hate that. It makes it so hard for me to disagree then. ;) And while your post almost swayed me on this one point, I still have to agree that the spanking-right-before-walking-out-the-door-for-work for Sara was horribly mean. :P We woman have to stick together about that and draw the line somewhere. Sorry, Grant. ;) (Respectfully meaning it in some nice way, but I am sure you both have already decided together about that one thing.)

    I am not in a DD relationship. I have read Sara’s blog for quite a while. Not that I pretend to know Sara and Grant well enough because of that, but I was never alarmed about these past two spankings Sara posted about. I trust them because of their experience and maturity that I have felt from what I have read about them here. They are not perfect, but yet I trust them like I would my parents. I am not saying the rest of the readers here don’t feel a trust for Grant and Sara too. I am just trying to explain my reasoning for the trust.

    Perhaps, I shouldn’t comment here because I am not in a DD relationship and haven’t actually experienced it full on. I do have an agreement with someone about spanking consequences in our relationship, but we do not live together. So, I am not sure whether what I say resonates with anyone here. I think that is partly why I don’t comment. I prefer to stand back and learn mostly.

    Hope I haven’t offended anyone by this comment and sorry if I did.

    I have the deepest respect for the couples who practice DD. It is my hope someday to find out what it is like to be in a DD relationship and if it is truly what I seek.

  13. It is almost funny. When I disagree with a punishment, it is a spanking gone wrong. I can’t accept that I may just be the one that messed up. It is his fault.

    Most of the time, I can see his side of the story latter but not every time.

    Thank you both for sharing your different sides of the story. It is good to see that we aren’t the only couple who has this problem.

  14. HOH border patrols? Yikes! It’s always interesting to hear the other side of the story, so thanks for sharing with us Grant!

    That said, Sara, I think your hubby is ready to rock your world, DD style. Hang on tight!

  15. Bree, your comments are always welcome and yes, you do have a right to comment. As for it being mean to spank as she walks out the door–I really wish I had a say in that…but I am tied to a contract, damn.

    Hey Roz, Thank you–Border Patrols tend to keep boundaries safe.

    Dragons Rose, Yes, we have all the problems everyone else has. ty

    Grace, Ahhh…those pesky Border Control Agents…always there when you don’ need them!

  16. Hi Grant. Thanks for giving us your perspective. It is always great to hear from the HoH’s. Border Patrols are important I guess and I know you will be there for you and Sara.

  17. Just wanted to clarify something Susie said, about the Glass of Submission, sipping is optional ( and so Susie-like) most of us gulp! At least the first one anyway!

  18. Hi Grant. I enjoyed reading your entry. It’s clear that you love your woman and she loves her man. Have a great weekend.


  19. Zoe, Thanks for your thoughts.

    Willie, yeah, gulping is always acceptable–FROM A KEG!

    Mick, Thanks for your comment, I appreciate it!


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